{"id":6753,"date":"2016-12-08T07:28:09","date_gmt":"2016-12-08T15:28:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.movedaily.ca\/?p=6753"},"modified":"2016-12-08T07:28:09","modified_gmt":"2016-12-08T15:28:09","slug":"food-may-trump","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kelowna.website\/6\/health-2\/food-may-trump\/","title":{"rendered":"FOOD: How the WHY may trump the WHAT"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/kelowna.website\/6\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/eating.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-6756 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/kelowna.website\/6\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/eating.jpg\" width=\"275\" height=\"183\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Why do you eat when you&#8217;re not hungry? Have you thought about it?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>A friend was describing a person to me the other day and referred to her as someone who &#8220;just really loves her food!&#8221; I think we all love food. The majority of us anyway.<\/p>\n<p>And so we use these phrases to let ourselves off the hook:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;I can&#8217;t stop eating because I just really LOVE food&#8221;.<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;It&#8217;s not my fault I ate the whole box of chocolates, I just really LOVE food&#8221;.<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I went back for seconds because well, I just really LOVE food&#8221;.&nbsp;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Not that there&#8217;s really a hook, per se. As adults we are all responsible for our own food consumption, whether it be a little or a lot, healthy or junky. But when we say phrases like that, it takes the responsibility off of us and puts it on the deliciousness of food! It&#8217;s the food&#8217;s fault for being so darn good.<\/p>\n<p>I knew it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So the question always is, why can&#8217;t I stop with just a little bit? &nbsp;Why do I have the urge to return to that good taste over and over?<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">It really isn&#8217;t WHAT you eat that is the issue. I believe that the deeper work is to look at WHY you eat.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"fp39b\" data-offset-key=\"2u17r-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"2u17r-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"2u17r-0-0\">The work that many of us have is to figure out the WHY of eating, it&#8217;s not the what.&nbsp;<\/span>Why do I come home after my day and raid the pantry of all the cheese and crackers? Maybe it&#8217;s because I didn&#8217;t pack a suitable lunch to sustain me, with complex carbs, healthy fat and lean protein. But, maybe it&#8217;s because I came around a corner just before I was about to leave the office and overheard two women I thought were friends, talking about me and I felt completely belittled. Wow. Stop to consider what a powerful emotion might arise from feeling belittled. Belittled says that you are not good enough. You don&#8217;t fit in. You are not what we want or like.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"2u17r-0-0\">&nbsp;<\/div>\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"2u17r-0-0\">Can you feel the heaviness of that?&nbsp;<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"2u17r-0-0\">&nbsp;<\/div>\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"2u17r-0-0\">So what&#8217;s the story you tell yourself about what those two women were saying? That I&#8217;m<em> not<\/em> good enough, I <em>don&#8217;t<\/em> fit in, I am <em>not<\/em> what people want or like. &nbsp;And just like that shame covers us like a blanket and all we want to do is rush home into the pantry and fill our face with cheese and crackers, or drink a bottle of wine, or eat a box of chocolates.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"2u17r-0-0\">&nbsp;<\/div>\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"2u17r-0-0\">The stories we tell ourselves are powerful. They can change us. Furthermore, when we live our lives in auto-pilot, we are not even cognizant of the power that these stories have to change our behaviour.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"2u17r-0-0\">&nbsp;<\/div>\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"2u17r-0-0\">I want you to stop and do something today. I want you to begin with being mindful about your reactions. Remember, anytime that you have an intense reaction\/response, it means that something is going on inside of you. Also, it means that you are telling yourself a story about what that circumstance means. Start by being curious about that story and about your actions that follow.&nbsp;<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"fp39b\" data-offset-key=\"1rp0u-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"1rp0u-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"1rp0u-0-0\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"1rp0u-0-0\">And then cover that shit with compassion. Compassion is the anti-dote to shame. Have compassion for your reactions\/responses\/behaviours.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"1rp0u-0-0\">&nbsp;<\/div>\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"1rp0u-0-0\">That&#8217;s where the journey starts.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"fp39b\" data-offset-key=\"c6uui-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"c6uui-0-0\">&nbsp;<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Why do you eat when you&#8217;re not hungry? Have you thought about it?&nbsp; A friend was describing a person to me the other day and referred to her as someone who &#8220;just really loves her food!&#8221; I think we all love food. The majority of us anyway. 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